The day most people will recall Zinedine Zidane head butted the player from the Italian team with only a few minutes left in the game. I know I should remember the poor fool that was pounded by Zizou but I cannot recall without googling it. Anyway, in our house it is the day that will live in infamy! This was my first real World Cup experience and clearly I did not comprehend the importance of this game. I mean, I did see the TiVo was full of World Cup matches and Sebastien was adamant about not deleting them but I mean, seriously, it is just soccer. The mere fact that I would write such blasphemy could get me in some serious trouble but I need you to understand where I’m coming from.
The day started off beautifully. I had planned a wonderful three course meal which was a HUGE fete for me at the time and spent the entire day cooking. Sebastien was out most of the morning and came in as the game was starting. We had decided to have a picnic on the living room floor and watch the game. Visualize with me, my beautiful husband sitting in the middle of the living room wrapped in his French flag. Sort of like superman cloaked in frenchness.
I brought in the first course, brushetta. One of my favorites—unfortunately, this is an Italian dish which was met with a confused “Qu'est-ce que c'est”. My oblivious response “brushetta” then went in the kitchen to check on the caprese and lasagna. Now, you can see where this is going. The entire meal I had spent all day preparing was entirely Italian. The French hate the Italians on a good day and on this World Cup 2006 Final Match day I had done the unthinkable.
We did not eat. The crazy singing and chanting of “Allez les bleus” did not help the poor team and the Italians won. Then in order to understand the obsession with soccer in France I furthered my downward spiral of un-frenchness and said “it’s not that big of a deal”. As you can imagine Sebastien was not a fan of my commentary regarding the game, tossed a beer across the room which shattered all over the floor. Of course Sebastien’s recollection of this day is a bit more colorful. J And he will never let me forget how I ruined “our” chances of winning.
This brings me to Bastille Day 2008. I never forget this day because it is the day after Sebastien’s birthday. This year I hung the French flag outside of our house and even had Sebastien come outside for a commemorative photo to send to his family. I was redeeming myself and lack of frenchness. That is until we got to dinner. I was tired and preoccupied. I went to the kitchen and started the salad and vinaigrette. Sebastien came in and asked what we were having to celebrate Bastille Day. I pointed to a box of noodles on the counter. He laughed and said, “We cannot have Italian food today-it is Bastille Day”.
We had salad and fruit tarts and I have once again proven that I will never be French! :)
NOTE from Rachel - My crazy French football lunatic husband actually was in the ER the morning of the France vs. Italy World Cup Game writhing in pain from a migraine. When the doctor came in and said he could give him a shot to alleviate the pain (keep in mind, he could not see out of his eyes and had to be in a dark room), he told him to wait and asked him if he could still drink beer because he was going to be watching the game in a few hours. The doctor kindly told him that yes, it would "technically" be ok for him to drink a beer, but his recommendation would be to go home and get some rest. Julien responded...."oh no, I can't do that! France is playing in 2 hours!" They (the French) = CRAZY! Oh....and let's not forget the fact that he called his maman on the way to the hospital and told her about his migraine. She asked to speak to me, and told me that I needed to make sure he went the hospital and that I was supposed to call her immediately afterwards and report back to her. This strange relationship that exists between French boys and their "maman" will be covered extensively in future blogs!!
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Thursday, July 17, 2008
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About Rachel
From Rachel - My story is a lot the same as Vivan’s…..I had just moved to NYC and was busy working away at my new job, and thoroughly enjoying my new life when a tall dark handsome Frenchman (let's call him Julien) entered the picture. He was visiting NY from Paris and happened to have lunch with my boss…..I was immediately smitten, but then he went back to France. I figured he was one of those “French guys” and had lots of girls on the side, or at least a gorgeous French girl back home. Little did I know he was the EXACT opposite of that! After a few weeks, a cd arrived on my desk of a band that we had been talking about, with a sweet note but no contact information. I guess he figured that if I was interested, then I would find his contact information and email him. I got sidetracked at work, and didn’t email him back…..then an email appeared, which led us to frequent emails back and forth for the next year. He was funny…charming…educated….full of culture…and FRENCH, which at the time was definitely seen as a plus! He decided to come back to NY and soon after his arrival we went on a date, and haven’t been apart since!
Two weeks after we started “dating”, we went back to Paris for a 10 day vacation. I thought this was going to be the most wonderfully romantic 10 days of my life……little did I know what lay in store for me. I encountered the toughest people I have ever met. My loneliness and sense of not belonging was such a contrast from the outward beauty and romance of the city. The cultures….the food….the French mothers…..they all let me know that I would NEVER EVER be French, no matter how much fois gras I ate or how hard I tried! HA!
Even after all this, I just couldn’t imagine NOT being with this wonderful man, and we married last year. It’s the craziest thing I’ve ever experienced – trying to “be” French….and I have resigned myself to the fact that no matter how hard I try to be the best wife, daughter in law, sister in law, granddaughter in law….I will NEVER ever be French!
I too, have spent countless hours laughing, crying, screaming, and desperately trying to figure out these complex Frenchies. I guess it’s going to be a lifelong quest, but I’m up for the challenge.....especially since I have Vivi around to share stories with, and tell me that no, it's not me...it's THEM! :)
Two weeks after we started “dating”, we went back to Paris for a 10 day vacation. I thought this was going to be the most wonderfully romantic 10 days of my life……little did I know what lay in store for me. I encountered the toughest people I have ever met. My loneliness and sense of not belonging was such a contrast from the outward beauty and romance of the city. The cultures….the food….the French mothers…..they all let me know that I would NEVER EVER be French, no matter how much fois gras I ate or how hard I tried! HA!
Even after all this, I just couldn’t imagine NOT being with this wonderful man, and we married last year. It’s the craziest thing I’ve ever experienced – trying to “be” French….and I have resigned myself to the fact that no matter how hard I try to be the best wife, daughter in law, sister in law, granddaughter in law….I will NEVER ever be French!
I too, have spent countless hours laughing, crying, screaming, and desperately trying to figure out these complex Frenchies. I guess it’s going to be a lifelong quest, but I’m up for the challenge.....especially since I have Vivi around to share stories with, and tell me that no, it's not me...it's THEM! :)
About Vivian
In 2003 I met the most beautiful man-who we will call Sebastien-in Chicago, Illinois. He had just completed his MBA at the University of Miami (Florida) and taken a position in Scottsdale, Arizona. I lived in Washington DC. He was in Chicago with his fraternity brothers and I was in town to lend moral support to one of my friends at the opening of his new restaurant. Our chance meeting led us to spend the rest of the weekend together. After our magical weekend in the Windy City we both returned home to our respective jobs and lives. It was very sad, not in a dramatic way, but in a “we have so much more to experience together” way. We promised to call one another and see each other soon. I did not think this would happen and went about my life back in DC which consisted of work, work and, um, more work!
I do not remember who called who first but after a couple weeks of chatting on the phone we decided we should see each other again. Sebastien boarded a flight and spent a few days with me in Washington DC. It was a wonderful! It was like we had known each other forever. I loved spending time with this person. I thought to myself, how had I ever dated anyone else or spent time with someone else? Sebastien was the most wonderful person I had ever known and unlike most of the people I had been in previous relationships with, he was absolutely gorgeous. I mean, I still to this day think, how did I marry such a beautiful man (inside and out).
Over the next few months we had some major changes in our lives and careers, which led Sebastien back to Florida. I soon followed and we were married months later. Complete bliss! Most of our experiences with his family were spent at his parents second home which is in Florida as well. Thus, I still had the comforts of home like Starbucks, dinner guests who spoke English, etc. I thought to myself, I am the luckiest girl in the entire world! I have a wonderful husband (still true) and someday I will get to have babies and move to Paris (being a DC girl living anywhere else in France has never really occurred to me). I looked forward to dressing up to attend the four hour dinners with his family when they were visiting the States. The food was fabulous; the family was so laid back and understanding of my lack of ability to speak their native language. All was beautiful in my new life as a Frenchwoman!
I now look back and laugh at how naive this little girl from the Midwest was and my lack of acknowledgement of the complexity of the French culture...
I have been working on becoming French since and now I am exhausted.
I do not remember who called who first but after a couple weeks of chatting on the phone we decided we should see each other again. Sebastien boarded a flight and spent a few days with me in Washington DC. It was a wonderful! It was like we had known each other forever. I loved spending time with this person. I thought to myself, how had I ever dated anyone else or spent time with someone else? Sebastien was the most wonderful person I had ever known and unlike most of the people I had been in previous relationships with, he was absolutely gorgeous. I mean, I still to this day think, how did I marry such a beautiful man (inside and out).
Over the next few months we had some major changes in our lives and careers, which led Sebastien back to Florida. I soon followed and we were married months later. Complete bliss! Most of our experiences with his family were spent at his parents second home which is in Florida as well. Thus, I still had the comforts of home like Starbucks, dinner guests who spoke English, etc. I thought to myself, I am the luckiest girl in the entire world! I have a wonderful husband (still true) and someday I will get to have babies and move to Paris (being a DC girl living anywhere else in France has never really occurred to me). I looked forward to dressing up to attend the four hour dinners with his family when they were visiting the States. The food was fabulous; the family was so laid back and understanding of my lack of ability to speak their native language. All was beautiful in my new life as a Frenchwoman!
I now look back and laugh at how naive this little girl from the Midwest was and my lack of acknowledgement of the complexity of the French culture...
I have been working on becoming French since and now I am exhausted.
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